Challenging Stereotypes and Embracing Humanity: Navigating Racial Conversations with Empathy
Navigating Identity: Unpacking the Intensity of White Defensiveness
Recently, I came across an insightful story by Rebecca Stevens on Medium (see above link) that sparked a discussion in the comments section that for me was mesmerizing. In particular, one commenter seemed personally offended, feeling that Rebecca was targeting ALL white people due to her experiences with a few white individuals, particularly a white woman she trusted who threw her under the bus. As someone raised in the Caribbean, I understand racial identities' complexities and wanted to share my perspective.
Acknowledging Cultural Differences
Growing up in the Caribbean, I observed that identifying someone of European origin as “white” often caused discomfort due to historical associations with colonialism. They would outright tell you they are not white. It’s a perplexing situation because of their appearance; plus, normally, they are not struggling like most brown people in the country. The negativity and destruction associated with “whiteness” in the past made many locals prefer not to be linked to such labels. They do not equate “whiteness” with “goodness.”
Contrasting Perspectives in the USA
In contrast, I’ve noticed a different response here in the USA. Rebecca’s account of her experiences stirred strong reactions from those who identify as white. One, in particular, responded defensively, suggesting that SHE was being racist against the more powerful and resource-endowed white community. This reaction perpetuated the belief that “whiteness” must be protected, often at the expense of others’ well-being.
He did not care about her losing a project but only wanted to protect his cage of “whiteness.” It also never occurred to him why countries in the African continent would need aid-type support from outsiders when they have rich resources looted by the very outsiders.
Examining the Concept of “Whiteness”
In the article’s comments, one individual likened some white people’s actions to those of “terrorists.” Sure, in America, we associate terrorists with people, normally extremist groups, who kill others because of their belief that they are being disadvantaged by the people they attack. While this may seem extreme, the argument is that " whiteness " is a belief system that perpetuates inequality.
There are for instance white terrorist groups like the Klu Klux Klan (KKK) and fringe groups (political and many privately funded) that support white supremacy. This belief has led to historical and ongoing acts of taking resources from non-white communities, even today, which can be seen as a form of terrorism.
A Suggestion for Reflection
In response to the passionate discussions, I made a suggestion to the main dissenter in the comment section — to try not to be “white” but rather to embrace our shared humanity. As I mentioned before, in many parts of the world, people resembling him would take offense if labeled “white.” By shifting the focus from racial identity to embracing our common humanity, we can avoid falling into the trap of perpetuating harmful belief systems.
In the end, the discourse surrounding Rebecca’s story highlights the importance of acknowledging cultural differences and challenging harmful belief systems. Promoting empathy and embracing our shared humanity can foster understanding and work towards a more inclusive and compassionate society. I hope the guy who identifies as white can find peace by showing empathy towards the people that his belief in whiteness destroys.
I refrained from mentioning the dissenter’s Medium handle in Rebecca’s comment section, as he represents a broader issue. You will see his comments when you read her article. Similar individuals perpetuate the same pattern of fiercely defending whiteness, dismissing the experiences of non-white individuals, and accusing black people of racism. This pattern is familiar to many in the black community. The root issue lies in a lack of empathy, leading to obliviousness to the harm inflicted upon others. The consequence is the deprivation of resources and opportunities for the victims while preserving the privileges associated with whiteness at the expense of non-white individuals.
